Things you should know if you plan on getting fit

1. The process isn’t gonna be fast:

When you go on social media you see social media influencers posting videos about getting fit in five days or “Getting abs in five days” and that’s not realistic . Any influencer that post that are lying to people because they know that people would wanna see results quick. But the truth is you just have to be patient and consistent and you will see results eventually.

2. Working out for over 2 hours a day will get quicker and better results :

I’ve heard so many stories about people doing hours of training sessions in the gym and that’s just not necessary , because all you could possibly be doing is overworking your muscles which could lead to fatigue, or joint pain.

3. Find what works for you:

There are so many different workout styles that if running or cardiovascular exercise isn’t your thing then try something that makes you happy, find what works for you even if it’s pilates,yoga or weight lifting. Or even try all of the above.

4. Don’t take everything so serious :

People are too hard on themselves when they’re trying to get in shape that they end up loosing motivation. But getting in shape isn’t a competition , you should only be concerned with being better than you were before and that matters more than trying to compete with fit people you see on social media.


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Benefits of Online Support Groups ❤️

So as you can tell by the title I’ve been trying something new for my anxiety, and on/off depression. I’ve decided to join online support groups and I’ll tell you what it’s like.

1. You’ll meet alot of people that understand you.

You’ll have plenty of conversations with people that understand you. And you’ll realize you are not alone . 🖤

2. You’ll realize compared to others you’re not as bad as you think.

Some people have very sad stories that will make you realize even with the pain you deal with, you could have had it way worst. (As cliche and annoying as that sounds) not that it takes away from what you’re going through. You’ll just feel more grateful.

3. On the downside you’ll realize how messed up you really are.

Support groups also will make you realize how much you really needed help, and how isolated you were from the world.

4. You can help other people & others can help you too.

The conversations you have will not only benefit you but the others who are struggling. You can unknowingly help someone else by helping them realize they aren’t alone, and they aren’t hopeless.

5. It can help more than you think. Don’t dismiss the benefits of therapy or support groups. Nothing is wrong with speaking up , and getting help. 🖤

❤️ Anxiety/Depression physical effects on the body : ❤️


As alot of people don’t know but anxiety, depression etc can are mental illnesses/disorders and not only are they considered mental but they also have pyhsical effects on the body.

Did you know anxiety can cause headaches, nausea, and trembling? Well I’m sure you know that if you have it yourself. But for other people who don’t’s more than thoughts causing Anxiety, it’s the physical symptoms you feel alot as well

And you don’t cause these things yourself. You don’t cause the trembling or fast heartbeats that’s not your fault no matter how much of your thinking may be causing anxiety.

Before you look at the picture down low low back pain and neck aches are also physical symptoms.❤️

These symptoms are extremely hard to deal with when you deal with it EVERY.SINGLE.DAY! it can be very hard to understand for others to understand. They ask questions like “what is it you’re doing that’s causing this” or “do you really have that much anxiety”. I hate that question the most because it makes me feel ridiculous.


Physical symptoms of depression which is something I posted before but never went deeply into.

Physical signs can be headaches, back pain, and insomnia, or sleeping too much.

Which can be remedied by therapy, medication, and etc.

There are things we can do to help cope with these things which I said before these are things I do sometimes.

1. Journaling: I’ve said it countless times. Writing down what you’re going through writing your triggers, feelings and keeping track can help clear your mind, and getting those thoughts organized.

2. Something that makes you happy: rather it’s music, dancing, art. Or whatever it could help you get your mind off things

3. Exercise: have not only physical benefits as most would know, but it also has mental benefits. That could really make a difference by not only getting your mind off things but by releasing endorphins. Which is a natural chemical in your body that can be released in the brain to release pain, that in large amounts can make you relaxed or full of energy.

4. Therapy: something I have yet to try but I heard it has helped so many people.

5. Try talking to someone instead of always hiding what you’re going through.

Don’t give up.♥️

Fantasy Books To read: 🖤


1. The darkest star by Jennifer L Armentrout


When seventeen-year-old Evie Dasher is caught up in a raid at a notorious club known as one of the few places where humans and the surviving Luxen can mingle freely, she meets Luc, an unnaturally beautiful guy she initially assumes is a Luxen…but he is in fact something much more powerful. Her growing attraction for Luc will lead her deeper and deeper into a world she’d only heard about, a world where everything she thought she knew will be turned on its head…
#1 New York Times, USA Today, and internationally bestselling author Jennifer L. Armentrout returns to the universe of the Lux in this brand new series, featuring beloved characters both new and old.

2. Strange the dreamer by Laini Taylor

Plot: The dream chooses the dreamer, not the other way around—and Lazlo Strange, war orphan and junior librarian, has always feared that his dream chose poorly. Since he was five years old he’s been obsessed with the mythic lost city of Weep, but it would take someone bolder than he to cross half the world in search of it. Then a stunning opportunity presents itself, in the person of a hero called the Godslayer and a band of legendary warriors, and he has to seize his chance or lose his dream forever.
What happened in Weep two hundred years ago to cut it off from the rest of the world? What exactly did the Godslayer slay that went by the name of god? And what is the mysterious problem he now seeks help in solving?
The answers await in Weep, but so do more mysteries—including the blue-skinned goddess who appears in Lazlo’s dreams. How did he dream her before he knew she existed? And if all the gods are dead, why does she seem so real?

Welcome to Weep.

3. A Court of Thorns and Roses by Sarah J Mass

Plot: Feyre’s survival rests upon her ability to hunt and kill – the forest where she lives is a cold, bleak place in the long winter months. So when she spots a deer in the forest being pursued by a wolf, she cannot resist fighting it for the flesh. But to do so, she must kill the predator and killing something so precious comes at a price …
Dragged to a magical kingdom for the murder of a faerie, Feyre discovers that her captor, his face obscured by a jewelled mask, is hiding far more than his piercing green eyes would suggest. Feyre’s presence at the court is closely guarded, and as she begins to learn why, her feelings for him turn from hostility to passion and the faerie lands become an even more dangerous place. Feyre must fight to break an ancient curse, or she will lose him forever.

4. Fallen Academy: Year One by Leia Stone

Plot : BrBrielle Atwater isn’t sure of much, but she knows a few things:

1. Having black wings is not normal.
2. Selling her soul to the demons was a mistake.
3. Lincoln Grey is the biggest asshole she’s ever met … but not falling in love with him might prove impossible.

When angels fell from the sky to war with the demons that ravaged Earth, their combined powers infected humanity. Now, the humans are assigned one of two fates, being either demon gifted or angel blessed.

After wings sprout from Brielle’s back at her awakening ceremony, she’s sure she’s an angel blessed celestial. It’s not until she sees black wings that she realizes something is terribly wrong.

5. Eye of truth by Lindsay Buroker

Plot: After ten years at war, Jev Dharrow looks forward to hanging up his sword, relaxing with a cool mug of ale, and forgetting that the love of his life married another man while he was gone. But when his ship sails into port, a beautiful woman wearing the garb of an inquisitor from one of the religious orders waits to arrest him.
His crime?

He’s accused of stealing an ancient artifact with the power to start another war. Jev would gladly hand over the artifact to stop more suffering, but he has no idea where it is or even what it looks like. The inquisitor woman definitely has the wrong person.

Inquisitor Zenia Cham grew up with nothing, but she has distinguished herself as one of the most capable law enforcers in the city, and she’s next in line to become archmage of the temple. All she has to do is find the Eye of Truth, and her superiors are certain that Jev has it.

He tries to charm her with his twinkling eyes and easy smile, but she’s not letting any man get between her and her dreams. Especially not a thief.

If Jev convince Zenia they’re on the same side, find the artifact, and clear his name, his homecoming will turn into a jail sentence. Or worse.less

6. House of darken by Jaymin Eve

Plot: When Emma moves to Astoria, Oregon, she is given two rules:

#1 – Don’t cross to “their” side of the street.

#2 – Don’t mess with the elites, especially Lexen Darken, top elite and resident bad boy.

While she finds this both weird and insulting, Emma has no actual intention of breaking these rules – until her guardians go missing. Now all bets are off. Only a single line separates her side of the street from the elites’, and she’s crossing it.

Captured and held by Lexen and his brothers, she learns the rules are in place for a very good reason. There’s a secret world hidden in this small town which goes far beyond the one she knows and understands.

A world not for humans.



















Why I like being alone: maybe too much 🖤

I’ve always been introverted for a very long time, ever since I was kid. When there would be social gatherings, or whenever I was around alot of people I would feel the need to separate myself from everyone for a while because I would feel too overwhelmed.

And I got older, it pretty much got worse. I always wanna be alone because I hate too much noise,or rowdiness, it gives me anxiety to be honest.

I’ve always get annoyed to people who are super loud & talkative because I’m the complete opposite. Just the way I’m sure my quietness will get on their nerves sometimes.

Instead of accepting it , people tend to think it means I’m either rude or stuck up. But that’s not necessarily true at all.

Me being “too quiet” or wanting to solitude. Becomes questionable by people, because they always wonder why I’m so quiet and I always wonder why other people are so loud.


Why I don’t believe in soulmates the way most people do: 🖤

Some definitions according to urban dictionary 💞


A person with whom your soul connects with on a level so deep that it is completely unexplainable, until experienced. And people might think you are freaks of nature, but they will never understand your love and connection.

Def 2. Soul mates by definition are two completely strangers who meet unexpectedly in life and feel this unbreakable which hides true love, unbelievable desire, passion and the wiliness to find each other in life. When god made us, he made us complete and pure with no ounce of sanity or hate in our soul. He cut us in half and separated us to two people and the purpose of true love and the meaning of your soulmate is to find your other half, it will take time but if the person has faith, courage and desire to find it then god will find the best time to show him or her the path in order to find his or hers other half soulmates.

Now I do believe in love. I just don’t believe in soulmates. The idea that the universe or whatever has someone out there meant just for you just doesn’t make sense to me.

I mean think about it, there are billions of people out there in the world, it could be anybody. There are probably millions of people in this world that you are extremely compatible with. Does it mean they’re your soulmate?? Probably not.

The belief that soul mates gives people are these ideas that they won’t be complete as a human until they find their person. And i think everyone is already whole, you just need someone to compliment who you are .

I don’t think the “universe” has created a soulmate for you. I think in a way we decide who our soulmates are when we think we know/found that person. whether that’s your Bestfriend,Mom, sister etc. Whoever you feel it is, it doesn’t only have to be in a romantic sense.


💙 Why new age beliefs don’t mix with Christianity : ✞

Disclaimer: sorry if I get any of these wrong I’m still learning. This is just my opinion so far… Thanks for reading .❤️

So this is mainly for people who believe in God. Or Christian’s. (Because I’m aware some people that follow me probably don’t have the same beliefs as me, to each their own…)There are a few things I learned recently that are considered to be sins that I did not know about, and when I first heard it I honestly thought it just didn’t make any sense. But I did research and really thought about it and I’m gonna talk about why certain things that don’t make sense can be considered wrong or sinful.

For the longest time I thought these practices (buying healing stones, finding third eye, Astro projection,yoga) wasn’t anything bad . Until i learned that , for one they are against christianity,and second they believe in things Christian’s don’t believe in.

Everyone should be entitled to have their own beliefs, so let’s not bash, or get offended because someone has a different opinion that what you believe in ❤️


Yes yoga, your eyes are not decieving you lol. As someone who loves yoga I’ll tell you when I heard this could be wrong from Christian’s, i was confused and annoyed. But when you do research you’ll see yoga mainly comes from 3 religions called “Hinduism, Jainism, and buddhism” . And if you are Christian I can see how practicing something that belongs to another faith can be wrong. And wouldn’t make sense.

“Most of what we call yoga in the West is not really yoga at all—it is only asana, the physical postures, and pranayama, the breathing exercises. Hinduism involves yoga but all yoga is not Hinduism.

With that being said all forms of stretching or exercise is not against your religion. So you can still put on relaxing music and stretch.

2. Having spiritual jewelery that’s supposed to do “magical” things for you. Such as a healing stone. Which I would know because I actually have them.

New age idealism is becoming very popular (healing crystals, Buddha,spiritual symbols,Astro profection) that everyone is starting to try it without realizing they are practicing a certain faith or religion. (Which is okay unless you’re not apart of that)

Think about it.

Alot of these new age ideas have beliefs that everyone can achieve a “god” status in their own right, and obviously if you are Christian that doesn’t exactly match up with our own beliefs so this actually matches up with like I said with number one practicing another faith but the one you claim to be apart of.

Yes , all of these can seem to bring you peace. But if you’re like me and you believe in God these other Faith’s aren’t gonna make you happy or give you the comfort that you’re looking for especially not as a Christian. Very confusing but once you do research on these subjects things might seem to make sense .

There will most likely be a part 2 explaining more. (Once I do more research eventually).💕

5 inspiring books I would love to read: ❤️

1. Everything happens for a reason and other lies I’ve loved by Kate Bowler

Plot: Kate Bowler is a professor at Duke Divinity School with a modest Christian upbringing, but she specializes in the study of the prosperity gospel, a creed that sees fortune as a blessing from God and misfortune as a mark of God’s disapproval. At thirty-five, everything in her life seems to point toward “blessing.” She is thriving in her job, married to her high school sweetheart, and loves life with her newborn son.
Then she is diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer.
The prospect of her own mortality forces Kate to realize that she has been tacitly subscribing to the prosperity gospel, living with the conviction that she can control the shape of her life with “a surge of determination.” Even as this type of Christianity celebrates the American can-do spirit, it implies that if you “can’t do” and succumb to illness or misfortune, you are a failure. Kate is very sick, and no amount of positive thinking will shrink her tumors. What does it mean to die, she wonders, in a society that insists everything happens for a reason? Kate is stripped of this certainty only to discover that without it, life is hard but beautiful in a way it never has been before.
Frank and funny, dark and wise, Kate Bowler pulls the reader deeply into her life in an account she populates affectionately with a colorful, often hilarious retinue of friends, mega-church preachers, relatives, and doctors. Everything Happens for a Reason tells her story, offering up her irreverent, hard-won observations on dying and the ways it has taught her to live.

Praise for Everything Happens for a Reason

2. The Wisdom of Sundays by Oprah Winfrey

In this book there are deeply insightful conversations with respected thought leaders (from Elizabeth Gilbert to Tony Robbins), you’ll find yourself reawakened and rejoicing in life’s possibilities. no matter what challenges emerge, everyone can use some positivity and inspiration.

3. Judgement detox by Gabrielle Bernstein

author Gabby Bernstein details how judgments play a toxic role in our everyday lives. Now more than ever, these negative perceptions separate us from the life we’re meant to lead, she explains. Fortunately, you can follow her lead to learn how to eliminate those draining thoughts and reap the positive rewards in all areas of life, from better relationships to improved health.

4. How to get sh*t done by Erin Falconer

Author Erin Falconer shows you how to actually do more by doing less. Her advice will help you off-load the nonessentials in order to shift your focus to the areas of your life that mean the most.

5. How to be everything by Emilie wapnick

What do you want to be when you grow up? It’s a familiar question we’re all asked as kids. While seemingly harmless, the question has unintended consequences. It can make you feel like you need to choose one job, one passion, one thing to be about. Guess what? You don’t.

Having a lot of different interests, projects and curiosities doesn’t make you a “jack-of-all-trades, master of none.” Your endless curiosity doesn’t mean you are broken or flaky. What you are is a multipotentialite: someone with many interests and creative pursuits. And that is actually your biggest strength.

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