Things you should know if you plan on getting fit

1. The process isn’t gonna be fast:

When you go on social media you see social media influencers posting videos about getting fit in five days or “Getting abs in five days” and that’s not realistic . Any influencer that post that are lying to people because they know that people would wanna see results quick. But the truth is you just have to be patient and consistent and you will see results eventually.

2. Working out for over 2 hours a day will get quicker and better results :

I’ve heard so many stories about people doing hours of training sessions in the gym and that’s just not necessary , because all you could possibly be doing is overworking your muscles which could lead to fatigue, or joint pain.

3. Find what works for you:

There are so many different workout styles that if running or cardiovascular exercise isn’t your thing then try something that makes you happy, find what works for you even if it’s pilates,yoga or weight lifting. Or even try all of the above.

4. Don’t take everything so serious :

People are too hard on themselves when they’re trying to get in shape that they end up loosing motivation. But getting in shape isn’t a competition , you should only be concerned with being better than you were before and that matters more than trying to compete with fit people you see on social media.


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how can millennials\ genz improve loneliness and depression part 3

I think mental health today is very important to talk about , recently I’ve been writing about depression and loneliness in gen z but i think we should also talk about some solutions to these problems going on today

people these days are also seeing that there’s a generation gap in the perception of mental health. When asked in a recent national survey conducted by Blue Cross Blue Shield, the majority (68 percent) of baby boomers and Gen Xers think their mental health is good or excellent, but only 49 percent of millennials say the same. Taking that a step further, we found nearly three-quarters (73 percent) of millennials think mental counseling needs to change.

why is there a difference in how generations handle mental health? I think its because of how we were raised and social media also plays a big part. we are able to relate and share and learn that mental health is just as important as physical health. I noticed as years go by the stigmas about mental health are torn down and our perception gets better.

Here are ways mental illness has plagued the millennial generation. according to research…

  1. Depression is on the rise among millennials.
  2. Suicide attempts have especially increased among black youths.
  3. It’s partly linked to money stress.
  4. Money stress isn’t just contributing to millennials’ mental health — it also means not everyone can afford to seek treatment.
  5. Millennials are also lonely.
  6. And they’re dealing with burnout in and out of the workplace.
  7. Many millennials dealing with mental-health problems at work say their office does not provide adequate support.
  8. Employees who work outside a traditional 9-to-5 are particularly vulnerable to depression, as are women, LGBTQ people, and racial minorities.
  9. Globally, workers say discrimination because of a mental illness is more prevalent than other forms of workplace bias.
  10. Nearly half of millennials have left a job for mental-health reasons.
  1. talk about it
  2. be supportive of others as well
  3. have a good support system
  4. get help

isolation and millennials, gen z/ mental health part 2

I personally think millennials and gen z are changing the way we look at mental health . In this post I don’t want to just focus on loneliness in millennials and gen z like last time I also want to talk about their\our mental health .

studies have shown while some millennials can’t afford to get help, they’re more likely to go to therapy than previous generations, destigmatizing the concept in the process. Millennials also feel that their jobs have an outsize role in their overall mental health. Because of longer work hours and stagnant wages millennials suffer from higher rates of burnout than other generations. Many of them have even quit their jobs for mental-health reasons. according to business insider Millennials are experiencing a “health shock” largely fueled by a decline in mental health.

\a blue shield report found that millennials are seeing their physical and mental health decline at a faster heart rate than genz as they age Without proper management or treatment, millennials could see a 40% uptick in mortality compared with Gen Xers of the same age, the report found. Since 2013, millennials have seen a 47% increase in major-depression diagnoses. The overall rate increased from 3% to 4.4% among 18- to 34-year-olds.

More millennials are also dying “deaths of despair,” or deaths related to drugs, alcohol, and suicide, Jamie Ducharme reported for Time in June, citing a report by the public-health groups Trust for America’s Health and Well Being Trust.

While these deaths have increased across all ages in the past 10 years, they’ve increased the most among younger Americans, Ducharme said. They accounted for the deaths of about 36,000 American millennials in 2017 alone, according to the report. Drug overdoses were the most common cause of death.

Millennials have been called the “burnout generation,” and based on recent blue cross blue shield, burnout is a real thing that’s impacting millennials in very real ways—especially when it comes to their mental health and emotional well-being.

For example, according to the report, major depression had the largest growth in prevalence among the top 10 health conditions affecting millennials. What’s more, millennial women are 20 percent less healthy than men, with major depression being one of the main drivers.

The question I ask the most is why do these things happen or why are they happening in this generation . what is causing us to feel so alone and depressed. the answer is within ourselves and I believe we can fight this.

Millennial/ genz mental health & loneliness of this generation

I noticed in this generation alot of us deal with mental health issues more now than ever and if anything some person deals with loneliness at some point in our lives, in this post i am going to discuss why that is and what we can do about it .

TWO studies have revealed that generation z and millennials are said to be the loneliest generations. according to “Millennials are the loneliest generation, according to a new survey of US adults. The YouGov poll found 30% of millennials said they always or often feel lonely, compared to 20% of Generation X and just 15% of baby boomers.”

2018 study by the health insurance company Cigna exposed the extent of the loneliness epidemic in the US – nearly half of 20,000 adults surveyed reported sometimes or always feeling alone or left out, with young people most affected.

The weird thing is we are always on the internet , on our phones/ connected online but in person its a different story. we feel alone, unconnected from others and like we don’t have any friends despite being around people.

In , According to a new nationwide survey performed by global health service company Cigna, America is currently undergoing a “loneliness epidemic” with almost 50% of participants feeling lonely. Researchers surveyed more than 20,000 adults aged 18 and older and utilized the UCLA Loneliness Scale to tally scores on a scale of 20 to 80, identifying those that scored above a 43 as being officially lonely.

43% of participants (that’s 2 in 5 Americans) sometimes or always feel isolated from others and that their relationships are not meaningful. Additionally, 27% (that’s 1 in 4 Americans) rarely or never feel as though there are people that really understand and connect with them. Only 53% of participants felt that they have meaningful in-person social interactions on a daily basis. Researchers are attributing these figures to the current lifestyle trends of Americans – more and more people are focusing on work, living father away from loved ones, and relying on social media interactions as opposed to face-to-face interactions. As a result, real and meaningful relationships have become superfluous and isolation has peaked.

“Gen Z is the loneliest generation, and it’s not just because of social media” – USA today

Overall, Because loneliness has so much to do with our own perception of ourselves and the world around us, challenging our inner critic can be one of the most powerful tools to feeling stronger in ourselves, more at home in our skin, and more empowered to pursue what we really want in life. There are steps we can all take to start to conquer loneliness , and these are steps that can lead us down a more social and connected path, where we can form closer, relationships to others.

Although alot of us feel lonely i feel like that something that can be fixed. we dont have to feel alone or be alone. there are steps we can take to feel more connected to others.



which is why I believe the movement is so important there are very disturbing videos and evidence of police brutality, there has been protest, marches and so on…yet there has barely been any change. I understand the outrage.

I think this movement is a good idea for all of these people that aren’t getting justice by the very people that are supposed to protect us, and in all honesty its scary. blm movement has never gotten as much attention as it had now. don’t forget go to


Self Acceptance :)

“Your life will be transformed when you make peace with your shadow. The caterpillar will become a breathtakingly beautiful butterfly. You will no longer have to pretend to be someone you’re not. You will no longer have to prove you’re good enough. When you embrace your shadow you will no longer have to life in fear. Find the gifts of your shadow and you will finally revel in all the glory of your true self. Then you will have the freedom to create the life you have always desired.” ~ Debbie Ford

everyone has things they don’t like about themselves but that doesn’t have to be that way forever , its time to peace within ourselves by learning to love yourself which is something I try to practice it from time to time.

the best thing to remember is that no one is perfect . but there are things we can do to learn to accept ourselves.

1. learn to know your flaws and what you have a problem with.

2. learn to give yourself positive reassurance everyday even if you don’t mean it yet. eventually you will.

3. slowly learn to make peace with the things you can change about yourselves. by accepting who you are.

“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are”. ~ Marilyn Monroe

Things to do during self quarantine🖤

For anyone who isn’t used to spending so much time at home, or being by themselves, here are some activities you can do. As someone who likes to spend time in solitude i am used to it but everyone isn’t the same and it is harder for others.


1. Workout. If you are used to working out at the gym or want to try getting fit, home workouts are great,there are so many varieties of workouts on youtube to find.

2. Journal. Being alone is the perfect time to self reflect. Also search up Journal questions online you’ll find plenty.

3. Learn another language (try something new)

4. Binge watch Netflix or hulu etc. Because…why not ? Lol

5. Meditate . again spending time at home is the perfect time to self reflect and also clear your mind.

6. Video chat friends , you might be social distancing but that doesn’t mean you can’t speak to other people.

7. Don’t forget to get fresh air. Yes i said it, fresh air. As long as you aren’t around a lot of people , going in your front yard or a walk distant from a lot of people get fresh air somehow….away from too many people.

8. Read

9. Board games if you live with someone or games with others online

10. Have a home photo shoot.

11. Learn to sew

12. Listen to podcast on spotify

13. Above i named reading, audiobooks are great too if you prefer them

Social media standards, influencers being the same, social media being toxic.🖤

Most of the things I want to talk about had to do with social media, and how it went from fun to toxic.

I would start with social media standards, and how people put so much pressure on themselves, to have alot of likes, post what they know will get the most likes. When you look at alot of influencers that are “popular” they all have something in common. And that’s looking the same. Not literally exactly, but pay attention to the pictures, the same products they endorse, especially fitness influencers. They all seem to look the same and have the same body type and unfortunately, mostly post majority of butt workouts because “big butts are in”. Now that I think about it it’s strange how a body part can be a trend.

Also, wanted to talk about the toxicity involved on social media. The cancel culture I’m tired of, calling people trash anytime they make a mistake, the judgement from people who don’t even know you. The weird pressure to be perfect in fear you’ll be bullied online. This grner can be very hypocritical, many talk about being loving and accepting YET, this generation also has an extremely judgmental factor.

Or the fact that people can’t even have a different opinion without being bashed, or that EVERYTHING seems to offend people now. 🤦🏽‍♀️ What has it turned into? A big mess.

Importance of valuing your body ♥️

I wish teens were taught the important messages about valuing themselves, and their bodies. I don’t just mean self-love but I mean this movement of telling teens “sex is nothing to value” “virginity’s are fake or a social construct” (which it only means you’ve never had sex before not that deep) and normalizing things that shouldn’t be normalized.

which I know this topic is not simple and alot of people won’t agree with me. but too many teens are taught on social media that sex is no big deal, what they do with their bodies is no big deal. I rarely see them being taught to care about their bodies more (not body positive stuff) but sex wise, they should care. alot of activist try to talk about self-love and knowing their value and worth but leave things out.

I think everyone should think about what they are doing and who you’re doing it with.

Replacing negative thoughts with uplifting ones 🖤

This is something I struggle with and most people do and it’s; BEING POSITIVE. It’s not easy to be positive all the time but it is possible to try and learn to replace any bad thoughts with better ones. Such as:

1. My future will be terrible it could be; I don’t know what the future holds, but there is hope

2. Today will be a bad day :

Everything will be okay no matter what happens today.

It isn’t easy but I try to do it.

Although we don’t always have control over our life situations and things we go through. But we have more control over our minds than we think. Although it’s impossible to be happy all the time, if you think of the world negatively 24/7 then you will live in negativity, and pessimism. And no one should want that.

So I believe we can try to replace negative, insecure, bad etc whatever it is that isn’t good going though your brain, I believe we can change it overtime, or even just try to replace those thoughts with something else.

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