Things you should know if you plan on getting fit

1. The process isn’t gonna be fast:

When you go on social media you see social media influencers posting videos about getting fit in five days or “Getting abs in five days” and that’s not realistic . Any influencer that post that are lying to people because they know that people would wanna see results quick. But the truth is you just have to be patient and consistent and you will see results eventually.

2. Working out for over 2 hours a day will get quicker and better results :

I’ve heard so many stories about people doing hours of training sessions in the gym and that’s just not necessary , because all you could possibly be doing is overworking your muscles which could lead to fatigue, or joint pain.

3. Find what works for you:

There are so many different workout styles that if running or cardiovascular exercise isn’t your thing then try something that makes you happy, find what works for you even if it’s pilates,yoga or weight lifting. Or even try all of the above.

4. Don’t take everything so serious :

People are too hard on themselves when they’re trying to get in shape that they end up loosing motivation. But getting in shape isn’t a competition , you should only be concerned with being better than you were before and that matters more than trying to compete with fit people you see on social media.


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🖤Self acceptance (tips) 🖤

These days we always hear about loving ourselves so I decided to share tips on maybe how you can start.

Let’s practice loving ourselves. Let’s start by finding things you love about yourself, and the good things about you.

1. Stop saying negative things about yourself

No more saying things like “I’m not good enough”. “I’m worthless”. You are not your negative thoughts.

2. Find good things you love about yourself

You already know what you hate about yourself, so now find what you like.

For example: I like my smile, I like my eyes

I’m a nice person, I am loyal, I am bold, I am smart.

3. Practice positive mantras to tell yourself
Even if you don’t believe any of the things practice saying it until you believe it. Like :

I am going to do great.

I will succeed.

I am enough.

You will believe it one day.

4. Don’t compare yourself to others

Don’t compare yourself to people on social media. They aren’t perfect no matter how much it looks like they are.

5. Don’t put others on a pedestal.

Like number 4. Don’t tell yourself that others are better than you. Nobody is perfect. And that’s okay. You don’t have to be perfect.

No matter what self acceptance take time and practice. But this is the only body and life you have, learn to love the body you are in and learn to accept every part of you. Know your worth. Because there are so many amazing things about you. Discover what they are.❤️

Positivity 💞 (quick post)

Haven’t posted in a while once again but wanted to share something I saw on Instagram as a reminder I think alot of people need. So this will be a be a very quick post. Because I’m pretty sure I talked about this last before only because I think it’s important.

Don’t forget to not let any negativity onto your life including online. Whether it’s trolls. Or anything that makes you feel bad.

If you notice certain things on social media are making you feel down or bringing out negative feelings in you maybe it’s time to stop spending so much time on it.

❤️Taking Social Media Breaks for mental health & Overall well being 🖤❤️

I’m just gonna get right to it. It’s Mental Health Awareness month and it’s the perfect time to talk more about social media ( 2 words I’m gonna say alot lol). Social Media can be fun & entertaining, but at the same time it can also be very toxic and even depressing. There’s pretty much no social media that is completely free from negative people or negativity period.

I think social media takes toll on alot of people mentally, whether it’s the comparing yourself to others, constantly seeing drama, negative post. Being on Instagram, , etc is not always healthy.

Which is why I think it’s important to take social media breaks. Even uninstall apps sometimes which sounds Impossible for some people. Not me particularly. I went on a social media cleanse, not even on purpose but it lasted at least 4 months. I was just genuinely not interested in anything Instagram or Twitter has to offer. Now I still barely use Twitter. Which is great considering the fact I used to be on Twitter first thing in the morning as a teen.

The benefits of taking a social media cleanse is:

1. Not seeing negative people (trolls)

2. Not seeing negative post on a daily basis. (Whether it’s gossip, bad things going on in the world, something controversial. I don’t believe we always should focus on it 24/7.)

3. Not having many people to compare yourself too. (You eventually stop caring about other people and what they are doing. There is no room for comparison because you’re not focusing on it too much.)

4. Not being too consumed with the celebrity gossip. (Because it’s not that important)

5. Eventually you realize the things you cared about weren’t even relevant thanks to social media.

Taking a break and finding new hobbies can be good for you. Or in my case doing more of your regular hobbies. Like exercise, reading and etc.

If completely taking a break feels impossible, try limiting your time. But not constantly checking it every few minutes. You’ll notice a difference.


💟Not comparing our life’s journey with anyone else: 💟

In high school we’re taught that we have to know exactly what we want after high school. We get asked all the annoying questions…

What college are you going too?

What do you want to do after high school?

And if you’re not doing what’s expected then people act like you will accomplish nothing.

But one thing we forget is that comparing yourself and life journey to other people is not good for you. Which is something I need to work on too. We don’t have to be exactly like the other person your age that’s doing something completely different than you.

With the influence of social media some people may feel envious of others that seem to have a more interesting/ successful life.

Our life’s journeys are completely different. That is something I struggle with from time to time which is why I decided to talk about it briefly today.

whenever we see someone the same age as us accomplishing more than we are or seeming too, we always question why can’t we be like that or you start to feel like you’re not good enough. But that isn’t true.

We all move at different paces and that is perfectly okay.

13 Cliche things I hate about young/ new adult novels❤️💋

When I started reading more, one thing I noticed is that pretty much any book that involved some sort of romance was pretty much similar to the point of irritation. So I’m gonna share what I think are the most annoying cliches in books.

1. The “Bad Boy”

Pretty much in majority young and new adult novels there is always the bad boy as the heroines love interest. The one who is known for being tough and mysterious. I had enough of these characters I’m over it! Honestly, these men aren’t even likable they’re actually pretty crappy . They are now referred too as the alpha-hole..

2. The “Manwhore”

Besides being a bad boy the male love interest is usually known for never being tied down and constantly sleeping around until he meets the innocent, sweet girl and she changes him forever, why should the virgin end up with the shallow Manwhore that’s pretty much sleep with every attractive girl and then treats them bad the next day ?…I’m bored with this storyline.😴

3. The “innocent sweet girl”

Now these characters are always contradictions. She’s innocent but sexual. Tomboy but feminine. ALLLL of the guys like her because she is different from any other girl. * Eyeroll*

4. The “mean girl”

The mean girl is either jealous of the heroine or she’s usually just a cruel ex. Who is very girly, and into the typical fashion, makeup and is “shallow”. Which is very annoying why if a girl is into all the stereotypical girly things then she is automatically the shallow character?

5. Stuck between two guys

Don’t forget, you cant have a new adult/ contemporary novel without not one but at least two guys trying to win the heart of the main character..let’s be real here they all choose who we expect.

6. Boring main character

The heroine is usually the girl that alot of guys want because she is so ” rare & special” yet the author writes nothing that makes said character actually interesting, in fact i noticed that these girls are usually very uninteresting and boring, yet they manage to make the guy that allll the girls want *another eye roll* fall in love within two days.

7. Terrible girlfriend

So once in a while the male love interest might start off in a relationship at the beginning of the book until he meets the female heroine, then he develops feelings for her. And the author usually tries to justify this by making said girlfriend a terrible, b*tchy person. I would like for a author to write more storylines for these girls that had to watch their boyfriends fall in love with another girl and leave her within 5.2 days of knowing her.

8. The best friend

Now one thing I noticed is that the best friends are always more interesting than the female protagonist of the story, yet she’s always overlooked.

9. No diversity

Yes, I know that these books are fiction but why is every character described similar. Usually white, and petite occasionally curvy but only ” in the right places” (*cue millionth eyeroll) and if there is a character or friend in the story that is African American for example, she’s usually written as a stereotype which is extremely disappointing.

10. Rich hero saves beautiful heroine.

The heroine is usually beautiful, and works hard because she desperately needs the money. Then she meets the rich man who falls in love and wants to save her because yet again she’s sooo beautiful and “different” from every other woman. so he starts taking care of her and never wants her to have too work ever again. And because of him, she is finally taken care of. *Yawn*

11. The Brooding *sshole

He’s moody, mysterious and treats the heroine absolutely terrible, yet has feelings for her and despite it all. The only thing the heroine can’t stop thinking about is her attraction for the guy even though he treats her bad.🙄

12. Too possessive

These men that happens to fall in love are weirdly too possessive almost controlling..but it’s alright it’s because he loves her and doesn’t want anyone else to know she has a body or skin.! 😴😴😴

For example: sees her wearing something too sexy and decides she can’t wear that so he makes a dramatic point of being jealous the whole time.

13. Bascally porn

I don’t want a read a book with sex every 2 pages. We get it! I don’t mind romance, but it needs a good storyline too, not basically word porn..

Overall, I love reading but at this point there are certain cliches I am tired of. Good thing there are billions of book to choose from.

different types of depression symptoms♥️

It is becoming more common for people to talk about their mental health struggles and alot of times some people don’t know the exact reason for that, it is very complex depending on the person. let’s start by talking about the different types of depression.
Depression ranges in seriousness from mild, temporary episodes of sadness to severe, persistent depression. Clinical depression is the more-severe form of depression, also known as major depression or major depressive disorder. It isn’t the same as depression caused by a bad event, or an medical condition

Which is why alot of people can be experiencing this and have no exact cause or reason for this.

To diagnose clinical depression, many doctors use the symptom criteria for major depressive disorder in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.

Signs and symptoms of clinical depression may include:

  • sadness, tearfulness, emptiness or hopelessness
  • Angry outbursts, irritability or frustration, sometimes over small matters
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in most or all normal activities, such as hobbies or sports
  • Sleep disturbances like insomnia or sleeping too much
  • Tiredness and lack of energy, so small tasks can feel like extra effort
  • Reduced appetite and weight loss or increased cravings for food and weight gain
  • Anxiety, agitation or restlessness
  • Slowed thinking, speaking or body movements
  • Feelings of worthlessness or guilt, fixating on past failures or self-blame
  • Trouble thinking, concentrating, making decisions and remembering things
  • Frequent or recurrent thoughts of death, suicidal thoughts, suicide attempts or suicide
  • Unexplained physical problems, such as back pain or headaches

Symptoms are usually cause noticeable problems in relationships with others or regular day activities, such as work, school or social activities.

Clinical depression can affect people of any age. clinical depression symptoms, even if severe, can get better & improve with psychological counseling, antidepressant medications or even both.

Atypical depression

This type is different than the persistent sadness of typical depression. It is considered to be a “specifier” that describes a pattern of depressive symptoms. If you have atypical depression, a positive event can temporarily improve your mood.

  • Increased appetite
  • Sleeping more than usual
  • Feeling of heaviness in your arms and legs
  • Oversensitive to criticism

Situational depression

This isn’t a technical term in psychiatry. But you can have a depressed mood when you’re having trouble managing a stressful event in your life, such as a death in your family, a divorce, or losing your job. Your doctor may call this “stress response syndrome.”

Premenstrual dysphoric disorder (pmdd)

Women with pmdd usually have depression. But besides that you could have :

  • Mood swings
  • Irritability
  • Anxiety
  • Trouble concentrating
  • Fatigue
  • Change in appetite or sleep habits
  • Feelings of being overwhelmed
  • Bipolar disorder

Someone with bipolar disorder, which is also sometimes called “manic depression,” has mood episodes that range from extremes of high energy with an “up” mood to low “depressive” periods.

When you’re in the low phase, you’ll have the symptoms of major depression.

Medication can help bring your mood swings under control.

Persistent depression disorder

If you have depression that lasts for 2 years or longer, it’s called persistent depressive disorder. This term is used to describe two conditions previously known as dysthymia(low-grade persistent depression) and chronic major depression

may have symptoms such as:

  • Change in your appetite (not eating enough or overeating)
  • Sleep too much or too little
  • Lack of energy, or fatigue
  • Low self-esteem
  • Trouble concentrating or making decisions
  • Feel hopeless

Phychotic depression

People with psychotic depression have the symptoms of major depression along with “psychotic” symptoms, such as:

  • Hallucinations (seeing or hearing things that aren’t there)
  • Delusions (false beliefs)
  • Paranoia (wrongly believing that others are trying to harm you)

Postpartum depression

who have major depression in the weeks and months after childbirth may have peripartum depression. Antidepressant drugs can help similarly to treating major depression that is unrelated to childbirth

Seasonal affective disorder

A period of major depression that most often happens during the winter months, when the days grow short and you get less and less sunlight. It typically goes away in the spring and summer.

If you have SAD, antidepressants can help. So can light therapy. You’ll need to sit in front of a special bright light box for about 15-30 minutes each day.

Major Depression

You may hear your doctor call this “major depressive disorder.” You might have this type if you feel depressed most of the time for most days of the week.

Some other symptoms you might have are:

  • Loss of interest or pleasure in your activities
  • Weight loss or gain
  • Trouble getting to sleep or feeling sleepy during the day
  • Feelings restless and agitated, or else very sluggish and slowed down physically or mentally
  • Being tired and without energy
  • Feeling worthless or guilty
  • Trouble concentrating or making decisions
  • Thoughts of suicide

Depression can improve and be managed. Don’t be afraid to reach out.

Great Self- Care Ideas💙❤️


It’s important for everyone to know how to wind down & relax at the times we need it the most. Self care can be helpful for stressful days.

There are many different ways to wind down and most people have their own ideas of self care. Taking time for yourself is not selfish, it’s important for your health too. There are plenty of ways to take care of yourself besides the physical ways such as baths,face mask and etc. Self care can also be investing in your mental health. I’ve seen this list below and decided to share it because it shows that pampering your self isn’t the only way to take care of yourself (even though it’s also good) here are other ideas:


(Source @beautifulfashionlover)


1. Taking quiet time for yourself.

2. Doing something that makes you happy, whether it’s fitness, a bath, or even watching your favorite movie.

3. Not doing anything you don’t want too.

4. Making sure don’t forget any responsibilities such as taking care of any school work because abandoning important things isn’t caring for yourself.

5. Taking care of your health such as not eating too unhealthy.

6. Write your feelings out in a journal because it’s good to get your feelings out.

7. Take a nap if you’re exhausted.

8. Start taking care of your physical health by finding a hobby like : swimming, bicycle riding, pilates, even dancing. Whatever is fun to you.

9. Finally start the things you’ve been procrastinating on like cleaning your room, organizing your closet, or washing clothes.

Here’s more ideas that I thought were great from other sources:

If you’re trying to make everyone like you then you’re doing something wrong (being yourself at all times)🖤

These days when everyone when likes a certain person it doesn’t mean they aren’t particularly being themselves, but one thing that I do notice is when you are being your true authentic self there will be people that don’t like you or anything that you’re doing.

When you think about it celebrities who gets alot of hate are usually the ones without a “clean” image for example Zendaya and Bella Thorne from Disney channel. They are constantly being compared to each other since they came from the same TV show and are around the same age. But since Bella Thorne is more bold with her clothes,makeup overall style and personality on social media she tends to get more negativity than other actresses her age that doesn’t. Same thing with Miley Cyrus being compared to other past Disney stars with less controversy.

Those are great examples of how everyone isn’t always gonna appreciate who you are if you don’t fit everyone’s expectations. If you’re trying hard to make sure everyone likes you are you really being yourself?

Overall, sometimes being yourself and not always caring about what people think might attract people that don’t like who you are whether it’s too loud, quiet or even weird but either way we shouldn’t try hard to fit in Whether anyone likes it or not. Be yourself and live how you like as long as it doesn’t harm anyone.🖤


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